Our lives are a sum total of the choices we have made. ~Wayne Dyer

Hello, friend. How are you? What’s new for you over these past few weeks? My experiences this month have been unusually deep, so my post today will be a heavy one. If you’re looking for some light reading today, you might want to pass this one up.
My primary focus this month has been life and death and the choices we make that structure our existence. Like I said, heavy. Sitting by the deathbed of a loved one can give rise to that.
While working with hospice, I learned that a component of the dying process for each of us is a life review: the process of recalling past events and memories in an effort to find meaning in and achieve resolution of one’s life (a description from a paper out of the University of Utah.) I was curious: Where in this process is my loved one? Is the life review detailed at times or one quick summary? Does he have unresolved conflicts that sadden him even now? If he never recognized the meaning of his life before, (too many of us don’t, in my opinion) will finding it now feel like being wrapped in a warm blanket or create a sense of having missed out?

After days of pondering, I began to think of how my life review might go. Will I have regrets? Will I wish I had reconciled relationships, or at least attempted reconciliations? Thoughts of two individuals popped into my head. Each of them was a huge part of my life for many years, and I still feel great love for them. But now, we no longer communicate. Not even Christmas card exchanges. I’ve decided to work at bridging the chasms between us.
I’ve also given a lot of thought to lifestyle choices: the environments in which we work and live, the water we drink, the foods we eat, and the activities we pursue. Each of these is important in its own right, and if you’ve read my past posts, you got loads of info on the reasons why. But considering all of them together at the end of someone’s life, after witnessing intense prolonged suffering, creates a lump in my throat and brings tears to my eyes. What if . . .

The profundity of life viewed from this angle inspires me to be more grateful, act with more generosity, and love more deeply. It’s as though a reset button has been pushed.
Every choice we make, big or small, has far-reaching consequences. Each one builds on the other and affects us down to the cellular level over our entire lifetime. I strongly agree with the words of French Existential Philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre: We are our choices.
Blessings,
Lisa
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